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The Two Most Powerful Words You Can Use

by Allanah Hunt | Jun 5, 2015 | It's All About You, Manifestation

I wish … if only … when …

I hear these words often when listening to people talk about their life. And the words which follow these statements are generally linked to their deepest desires, their true nature and their hope for something more or something different from their current experience.

Do you use these words?

I used to use them often,

always hoping or wishing for something to change but not really believing that it would. I would buy a lottery ticket in the hope that someday I would win the jackpot but knowing in my heart that it was highly unlikely that I would win anything. I think for most of us, this is a vain hope and that we are aware it is about as probable as flying to the moon!

But I also used to use them for things which were closer to home.

If only I was slimmer
I wish I was braver
I wish I was smarter
If only I was prettier

These became the excuses for my life.

If I was slimmer I would be able to go to the beach, play with the kids in the park

If I was braver I would go out and meet new people

If I was smarter I would be able to earn more money

If I was prettier someone would love me …

And then I learned something. I learned the two most powerful words in the world.

I AM

That’s it. Just two simple words which transformed my life. When I changed my statements from I wish to I AM, everything changed.

I am slim, fit and vibrant

I am brave and fearless

I am smart and capable of anything I put my mind to

I am attractive and deserving of love

See the difference?

One is a hope, a wish for something, someday, sometime …

The other is a statement of fact. And whatever comes after the words ‘I AM’ is said as a reality that already exists. When you claim something as already yours, even when you can’t see it in the mirror, you demonstrate belief. Faith if you like.

It is the belief that something is true, even if you can’t see it yet, that makes it true. Not in some airy fairy way but in the way others respond to you. When you act as if your statement is true, behave as if it were true, other people start to see the difference. And as they see it and treat you differently, this reinforces your belief until you can see it in the mirror.

So the next time you ‘wish’ or ‘hope’ for something … change your statement to be fact in this moment.

I AM ….

Speak what you want as a fact and it becomes the truth.

10 Ways To Build Greater Self-Confidence

by Allanah Hunt | May 25, 2015 | It's All About You, Manifestation, Relationships

Self Confidence is the most attractive quality we can have and yet its one we often struggle with. Brought up in a world where we are taught that its better to fit in than to stand out, we hide our uniqueness behind a wall of ‘normality’ which keeps us small.

But if you want more than mediocrity in life; if you want trust, love, success, joy and happiness, you need to become more of yourself. It is only by sharing your fabulousness, your unique and wonderful self with the people around you that you will attract the same in return.

Getting to know and love yourself through acceptance and understanding will build the self-confidence you need to fully embrace your life.

Push Yourself Beyond Your Comfort Zone

It is tempting to keep doing what you know, to stay in your comfort zone. The idea of doing something new, of pushing the boundaries of your experience may seem scary but the rewards are incredible. When you achieve something you never thought you could, you get to see yourself in a new light. And each time you push a little bit further, you discover more about what you are capable of. Its never as scary as you tell yourself it is.

Embrace Your Personal Style

We are bombarded by messages in magazines, television and by the big brands which tell us how we should look, what we should wear, and how we should behave. But remember that fashion is transient and what is ‘in’ today will be ‘out’ tomorrow. It is the constant turnover of style which generates income for big business and adds to our sense of insecurity. Becoming yourself in a world which wants you to be a clone may sound impossible but developing your own personal style will help you feel more comfortable in your own skin.

Ask For Help

When you worry, you start to doubt yourself and your abilities which in turn undermines your confidence. It may feel uncomfortable to ask for help but the rewards are twofold. You learn something new or find a solution to a difficulty but more importantly it’s a chance for you to connect with someone else. They feel privileged to be asked, grateful for the opportunity to be able to help and both of you come out feeling on top of the world. You may even make a new friend!

Trust Your Gut

We all have a tiny voice which whispers to us and lets us know whether something feels right or wrong. Following the crowd will make you feel insecure as you are dependant on people around you to make you feel good about yourself. People are fickle and you may be accepted today but rejected tomorrow. Reconnecting with yourself allows you to hear your intuition more clearly and by following your gut, you make decisions which are right for you.

Cover All Your Bases

Taking care of your physical and mental health is a great way to be ahead of the ball game. The one certainty in life is that things will change but by building resilience and resources in yourself, you can ensure that you have reserves of strength and fortitude for the times when life throws you a curve ball. Eat healthily, exercise and take time to be alone and you will create a strong connection which will see you through the most difficult storms of life.

Be Willing To Put Yourself Out There

Good things will not come to you if you are sitting on the sidelines of life. The fabulous job, the wonderful partner, the great friends will not drop magically in your lap no matter how hard you wish for them. If you want more in life you have to be willing to go out and get it. Get clear about what you want and then take the actions which will bring it to you. At each step along the way, check in with yourself to ensure you are on track. But remember, sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck. Don’t be so focused on your goal that you fail to see what is right in front of you.

Never Apologise For What You Love

The things you enjoy are a reflection of you, your personality and your quirkiness. We are all a little weird but if your express your weirdness, you will attract like minded people. How miserable it is to go through life playing a part with people just so they will like you. Much better to be true to yourself and find the people who share your interests and passions. As you express yourself through the things you love, you feel more connected to yourself bringing joy to you and others around you.

Embrace Your Inner Child

Life as an adult is filled with to-do lists, responsibilities and schedules which can leave us feeling stressed and frazzled. Taking a step back to do something fun helps you balance your life and brings joy and positive energy. Go to the children’s playground and sit on the swing, roll down the nearest hill, make a play-doh person, colour in a picture, or build a tower with blocks. Hang out with a child and watch the world through their eyes. Just be in the moment with no thought about how it may look to someone else. Connecting with your childlike self brings freedom and joy.

Celebrate Your Achievements

We work so hard to achieve but often fail to pat ourselves on the back when we get there. We shrug it off as if it is nothing, set a new goal and keep moving forward. But when times are difficult and you feel you are making no progress, it is vital to be able to see how far you have come. Celebrating your wins gives you the confidence to take on a new challenge with the knowledge you can achieve it.

Fake It Till You Make It

Confidence can take time to build but you can ‘act’ confident anytime you choose. What does a confident person do? Take note of the way they stand, the way they smile, the eye contact they make and copy their actions the next time you need a dose of confidence. You may initially feel like a fraud but if you push through you will discover that in fact you already have everything you need.

Are You In The Pursuit Of Happiness?

by Allanah Hunt | Mar 28, 2015 | Emotions, It's All About You | 0 comments

Where can you find happiness?

People talk about happiness as if it is tangible and when you look in the right place you will find it. For some, happiness is achieved through their career, their wealth or their home, whilst others find happiness in their children or a romantic relationship.

The Pursuit of Happiness is at the root of our current society as we look for instant gratification through ‘retail therapy’ (shopping), food, sex, alcohol, drugs and prestige. The need to feel accepted, to be good enough – these are some of the emotions we use to define happiness.

As we have more, we feel we are more.

And this feeling of being ‘better’ keeps us in a cycle of competition, constantly striving for more.

This is the feeling we believe is happiness. The problem with this model is that you are relying on things outside of yourself to make you happy. And your level of happiness seesaws between ecstasy and despair depending on how well you believe you are doing in comparison to how you see other peoples’ success or failure.

The other way we try to create happiness is by reducing our pain level.

In other words, if our emotional pain is less, then we must be happier, right? So finding ways to numb our pain produces a feeling of well-being or happiness, at least in the immediate moment. The problem with this tactic is that over time we become desensitised to the method of pain numbing; shopping, alcohol, drugs, sex etc; so that we need to do more of these things to get the same result. This puts us on the same seesaw as the paragraph above. Again, we are relying on something outside of ourselves to make us happy and are therefore powerless to maintain our sense of joy when things change.

The only place to find true sustainable happiness is to look within. If you look ‘without’ you will go without!

The contentment, stability and comfort you find in knowing you are your best friend, that you never need to feel alone and that you already have everything you need is liberating. It’s like magic! Your fear, insecurity and pain melt away like frost on a sunny morning. And just like the sunshine after the rain, your heart feels lighter, there is a Mona Lisa smile hovering around the corners of your mouth, your head lifts as you look out through eyes which are bright with anticipation.

When you look at your life through the eyes of gratitude, happiness is the automatic result. Events will occur around you, there will be loss and things will change. But with a clear sense of who you are, your happiness can remain intact.

Happiness is not always the feeling of euphoria we are led to believe. Sometimes it’s just the choice to be grateful, to focus on the good and to let go of any feelings of anger, rejection or frustration as you know they do not add to your life.

This is a position of extreme power. Here you understand you have the freedom to choose your responses and therefore your happiness.

Have a think about this and see how you can add more happiness to your life!

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