Manifesting A New Life Starts With The Willingness To Embrace Change

Manifesting A New Life Starts With The Willingness To Embrace Change

by | Sep 10, 2021 | It's All About You, Manifestation | 0 comments

Change is necessary for a changed life!

Which isn’t to say you need to change. However if you want to experience something different from your current reality you must be willing to embrace something different.

I remember the years when I hoped and prayed that a fairy-godmother would wave her magic wand and my life would suddenly look the way I wanted it to. Or better yet, that a genie in a bottle would grant me the three wishes that would change my life forever.

And I loved the idea that I could ask the universe for something and I would get the response; “Your wish is my command”.

What a relief!

Of course, it’s wasn’t quite that simple ..

I hadn’t factored in the nature of change.

Once in a while the change you want to experience shows up the way you want it to …

But the other 99.9% of the time, change is a process. It builds upon itself. In the same way you didn’t get to where you are in a single moment, you won’t get to where you want to be in a single moment either.

 

 

The speed of the change you seek is determined by how quickly you embrace the process.

It’s important to understand that change doesn’t always look or feel the way we expect. In most cases, it doesn’t look even remotely similar. Opportunities can come disguised as endings. Love can come disguised as friendship. Improvement can come disguised as a backward step.

Some of my coaching clients tell me they feel like they’re going backwards. The shifts they’re making feel uncomfortable. Where once they felt like they were ‘in control’, suddenly they feel unsure, uncertain or confused.

I congratulate them!

Change is uncomfortable. Even change we desire can create the feeling of butterflies in our bellies. So when my clients tell me they’re feeling uncomfortable, I know things are changing for them.

And I encourage them to embrace it.

Because when you embrace change, you signal your willingness to accept.
When you embrace change, you demonstrate your willingness to receive.

And then the magic can start to happen …

Most everything you want is just outside your comfort zone ~ Jack Canfield

Why is change uncomfortable?

Because you’ve learned certain ways of being, certain ways of thinking, acting, reacting and behaving that feel familiar to you. You’ve learned about what wrong looks like and what right looks like. You’ve learned the consequences of good and bad. You’ve learned that ‘mistakes’ can cost you dearly.

So when something different shows up that feels unfamiliar, the well worn path or pattern is to resist it.

If it feels uncomfortable, it must be ‘wrong‘.

But what if discomfort is NOT the measure of right and wrong …

What if it’s just the measure of your current understanding of what is right and what is wrong? Your current understanding of what’s acceptable and what’s not?

What if it’s just a reflection of everything you’ve learned in the past?

Will you let your past dictate your future?

Manifesting a new life requires you to pay attention to what you’re resisting.

Everything you resist, persists.

Embrace the unfamiliar. Embrace the endings. Embrace the uncertainty. Embrace the confusion.

They are a sign things are changing and something new is emerging.

And isn’t that what you want?

The Power Of The Pause

The Power Of The Pause

by | Oct 18, 2018 | Emotions, It's All About You, Relationships

Have you ever had one of those moments when words flew out of your mouth that you immediately regretted? Or when the tone of your voice caused someone to frown, to take a step back or to react in anger?

I remember as a teenager hearing the words, ‘count to ten before you answer’.

And me, being the typical teenager that I was, rolled my eyes so far back in my head that all you could see was the whites of my eyes!

It sounded stupid to me. I didn’t have time for that. And of course it was my mother who said it to me so what would she know? No ‘listen to others and learn from their experience’ for me!

And so those moments I spoke about at the beginning of this article? Yeah, those were mine. And not just once. I made a habit of it. I became an expert. And it created havoc in my life.

Until I learned the power of the pause …

The power of just taking one damn moment to engage my brain, to engage my heart and to look at who I was speaking to. To really look and see a person in front of me. Someone real with goals, dreams, sadness, struggles and desires of their own. To just stop, pause, listen and regroup before responding.

Your brain is the wonderful machine that runs your life.

And when I say ‘runs your life’ I don’t just mean that it runs your organs or that it controls your physical senses. Your brain is like a matchmaker. It’s a filing system that’s working 24/7

It’s constantly processing information and matching it to what it already knows. For such an amazing organ, it’s really quite lazy! Your brain will always take the path of least resistance.

“You will always see what you expect to see and hear what you expect to hear” – Allanah Hunt

Let me explain what I mean.

Your Brain is Like a Computer

Imagine you have a pile of paperwork or files on your computer that need to be organised. The only way you can do this task is to categorise the various files or pieces of paper in a way that matches the folders that are already set up.

The majority of this task is relatively easy but every so often you come across a piece of paper or a file that just doesn’t seem to fit anywhere. It has to go somewhere, and you don’t want to create a new folder so what do you do? You stuff it in the folder that ‘kinda’, ‘sorta’, matches. It’s not a great fit but given the options, it’s the only one that makes any kind of sense.

It’s the same with your brain. After the age of seven your brain doesn’t make any new folders.

Your brain categorises new experiences based on previous ones and lumps them together as the ‘same thing’.

As a child you responded to events and experiences with limited understanding. You thought in black and white, or right and wrong because that’s as much as your young brain could understand. And so the way you responded to events was often dramatic. Either laughing excitedly or sobbing uncontrollably. The simplest thing would trigger a reaction that from an adult’s perspective was very extreme.

You know this is true. You’ve seen it for yourself. One minute a child is happy and the next, it’s as if the world has ended. That’s just kids. It’s because their brain simply cannot process the world in the way an adult can.

But here’s where it gets really interesting. Those folders your brain is creating before you’re seven are the building blocks for your life. And they’re not just inert folders. They have a trigger attached to them. They have an emotional charge connected to them that is replayed on auto pilot over and over again. And that charge powers your thoughts, it powers your emotions, it powers your heart rate and it powers your blood pressure.

Can you see where I’m going here?

If your brain stopped making folders after seven years of age and categorises all new experiences based on old ones, then the resulting reaction to the old event was also formed before you were seven. And unless you were actively taught healthy ways to understand and manage your emotions, a version of the childlike you will continue to show up in your adult life, particularly in times of stress.

A rational adult mind has the ability to see different sides of the same situation, but at times it’s like a bypass switch is flipped. The rational part of your brain switches off and your automatic preprogramed part switches on. It happens in a fraction of a second and can have devastating results.

It’s why we put kids in ‘time out’.

And it’s why we need to take a moment to pause before we respond.

We Need To Interrupt The Pattern

It’s about creating an interruption. Something that stops the bypass switch from being triggered in your brain. Something that creates the space for you to regroup and make a choice.

Count to ten, hum a tiny song in your head, flick a rubber band on your wrist or look away for a few moments. Choose something that will work for you and practice it.

If you’re a parent, practice it with your kids. Practice it with your work colleagues. Practice it with your parents. Practice it with your partner.

Try it out with the person you find most annoying in your life. The person who just makes you want to scream with frustration.

Yeah, that person.

Because that person is acting in a way that triggers an automatic reaction in your brain. Probably nothing to do with them but something your brain has an existing emotional charge around. Something your brain has lumped in with another time, another place and another experience.

Take a moment to pause.

Take a moment to look at that person differently. Take a moment to step away from the immediate anger, frustration or other emotion that is flowing hotly through your veins.

Why?

Because how we feel shows up in every part of our body, in our facial expressions, in words and how we say those words even if we’re not aware of it. Just as you have triggers that set off the bypass switch in your brain, so do others. And the meeting of two explosive charges is never going to deliver a positive result.

Although the outcome of a meeting of two people is created by those two, you have the opportunity to choose your part in that outcome. And by choosing your part, you impact the other for better or for worse. You can’t control how someone else responds but you can choose not to be the trigger that flips their bypass switch.

There is power in the pause.

5 Ways To Become More Sherlock Holmes

5 Ways To Become More Sherlock Holmes

by | Aug 23, 2018 | It's All About You, Manifestation

Every image you see of Sherlock Holmes is of him with his hat, his pipe and with his magnifying glass in his hand. And when you’re struggling to see something, the natural response is to lean in, to peer more closely in the hope that suddenly by reducing the distance, you will increase the vision.  And for tiny writing on a label on the back of a jar, or for the fine print on a document, this can work perfectly.

But if you’ve ever read a Sherlock Holmes book, seen a movie or watched a television series, the characters are always astonished by what he notices. They are bewildered, puzzled and often a little frightened by how accurately he sees them, even at first meeting.

Does he use his magnifying glass for this?

No. In essence he uses his peripheral vision, his wider view to capture information that most people miss. And it’s this information that truly gives him the answers he seeks.

Let’s talk about peripheral vision for a second.

 

When we look at this image which demonstrates peripheral vision, we can see clearly how wide the angle of vision is for most people. Although you might be looking at a specific point straight in front of you, your brain is taking in a lot of ‘peripheral’ information around the edges at the same time.

When you want to focus in on one aspect of what you’re seeing and block out everything else, it makes sense to come closer. But if you went around the world, trying to peer at everything by excluding your wider vision, what would happen? You’d fall over. Of course you would. You wouldn’t be able to find your balance or see where you were going!

It’s the same with difficulties in life. When we ‘zoom in’ and focus on the problem, we can’t see anything else. I don’t know about you, but in my experience, the closer I get, the more I scrutinise, analyse or immerse myself in the problem the more it continues to look exactly the same. In fact, it’s easy for my vision to blur to such an extent that I can’t see at all.

Think of a camera. We all have one built into our phone and we’re constantly using it to capture images of our lives and the things we experience around us. Sometimes we need to zoom in to see the detail we want to capture but in order to create context in our photos we need to keep a wide angle view. There’s no point in having endless selfies with no understanding of where we are, what we’re doing or why we’re taking the picture. It’s the scenery, the wider view that helps us create memories of the experiences we want to capture.

From close up, it’s impossible to find solutions, find answers, find balance or see the path ahead.

We need to stand up and take a wider view in order to truly see what’s in front of us. We need to add some context and some perspective.

So what can you add to the picture to make sense of what you’re seeing?

Acknowledge your emotions

Emotions are the way we become alert to what we’re thinking and what is going on in our body. They are an information signal but if you don’t acknowledge them, drown in them or try to push them away then their purpose is lost. Accepting your emotions allows them to pass through you instead of settling in your heart, your mind and your body. It’s easy to get stuck in our feelings and not see the truth of what they’re here to show us.

Give yourself some space

Go for a walk, go to a movie, distract yourself by being with others or take some time to do something you enjoy. When you put yourself in a difference space you also put yourself into a different state. And that different state can give you a chance to connect with the steady part of yourself that knows no fear, that knows the answers and can give you the strength to go on.

Add gratitude to the mix

When life feels hard, it can seem almost impossible to connect with being thankful. But when you truly look to see the wonderful things that surround you, even if all you can see is the four walls you live in, you shift your vision from what is difficult to the good things you already have. Even if you are in loss, you can lift your head and be thankful for the person, the experience or the joy you felt before things changed.

Slot this experience into the timeline of your life

Although this is an issue for you now, and it might be for some time, in the scheme of your entire life it is only a moment. A big moment, perhaps a life changing moment, but simply a moment. Think about whether you will feel this way in six months, a year, five years.

Focus on your options

Sometimes we just need to get out of our emotions and into our head. Not to stay there, but as a way of adding some further information. This can be a powerful way to help diffuse sadness, worry or uncertainty. Write a list of five things you have a choice about.

What are my options?

What can I do?

What would make a difference?

How will I feel if?

How will this take me where I want to go?

Sometimes the simple act of making a decision, even if you change it later, helps relieve the emotional charge around what you’re experiencing.

Sherlock Holmes is the masterful detective he is not because he narrows his focus but because he widens it.

He widens it to include everything no matter how seemingly irrelevant. Only when he has the full picture does he see clearly.

It’s the same in life.

Peripheral vision brings knowledge, balance, perspective and clarity.

Don’t become Sherlock Holmes with a magnifying glass.

Become Sherlock Holmes with a wide angle lens taking in everything around him.

Step back to add some context, to add some perspective and to add some balance.

I promise you will see things more clearly than ever before and the answers you seek will find you.

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You can use Sherlock Holmes’s skills of observation and awareness to help you make desicision, guide your choices and improve your relationships with others.

Watch my livestream video on this topic to learn more about how to use your peripheral vision to guide your life

How To Use Your Facebook Newsfeed To Improve Your Life

How To Use Your Facebook Newsfeed To Improve Your Life

by | Jun 26, 2018 | It's All About You, Law of Attraction, Manifestation

Have you noticed that your Facebook newsfeed is only showing posts from a select few of your friends and contacts?

People you’ve been interacting with for ages, have seemingly disappeared. You might even have forgotten them yourself for a while but when they popped back into your head, what did you do? I know that when this happened to me recently, I went to their profile to check they were still on my friends list. And of course they were.

So what’s going on?

Why can’t you see all your friends posts anymore?

The answer is in the Facebook newsfeed algorithm. If you’re not familiar with an algorithm, here’s what the dictionary defines it as:

“a process or set of rules to be followed in calculations or other problem-solving operations, especially by a computer” 

None the wiser? You’re not alone.

Essentially an algorithm is a program that runs in the background of a digital platform. Google uses algorithms. Every other search engine uses algorithms too.

And of course Facebook newsfeed has its own algorithm that is used to determine what to show in your news feed. As a user, you’d like to think that you’d see everything from all of your friends but Facebook has a series of rules running in the background that are constantly revising which content to show you based on how you use their platform.

Simply put, if you engage (like, share or comment) on a particular person’s posts, Facebook will show you more posts from them. Facebook’s algorithm is adapting constantly to show you content that is relevant to you. The action you take in your Facebook feed is ‘teaching’ the algorithm what you want to see. And unless you start changing your actions, you will keep seeing the same narrow content from your ‘favorite’ friends.

Scary huh?

But what’s even more scary is that this is exactly how your brain is working too.

Your brain is essentially one great big algorithm that will show you exactly what you tell it you want to see. Unfortunately, unless you tell your brain to show you something different from what you’re already seeing, its job is to keep showing you the same (or similar) things over and over again. It essentially a core program that is running on repeat.

It’s a bit like buying a brand new smartphone. The functions that are necessary to run the machine are already installed but to make it do everything you want it to do, you need to install specific apps. In the same way, you are born with the functions that are necessary for life but during the first seven years of your life, apps are being installed. These informational apps are adapting to your environment and programming your brain and body with the messages they receive from your primary caregivers, society, school and your interactions with others. These messages become the foundation for your life. They dictate how you view yourself, how you view the people around you, how you see the world and what you intrinsically believe about how things work.

These messages determine what you see and drive your thoughts and emotions.

So if you’re not happy with how your life looks then some of the core programming that’s running in the background needs to be updated. Unfortunately, this is where those information apps can let you down. They are updatable but it’s not an automatic process. You must choose the updates you want and install them manually.

With me so far?

Okay. Now to the point of this article.

You can use the Facebook newsfeed algorithm to improve your life …

We’ve learned that the Facebook algorithm is learning what you want to see and delivering it to you.

We’ve learned that your brain is doing exactly the same thing.

“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change” ~ Dr. Wayne Dyer

This quote tells us that when we look at things differently, the things we look at change.

But it works in reverse too.

“If you change the things you look at, the things you see will change ” ~ Allanah Hunt

And this is exactly how you can use Facebook’s algorithm to improve your life.

Go out and look for the things you want to see more of. Use the search function to find content that’s inspirational, that will support you on your journey, that will bring more joy, more happiness, more abundance, more gratitude … more of the good stuff into your life.

And then let Facebook know that’s what you want to see. Like, love, share, comment … engage with what you want to see more of. And Facebook will obey. Facebook will deliver you exactly what you ask for. That’s the algorithm’s job.

But here’s the best bit …

As you surround yourself with more of what you want to see, you’re also training your brain to see more of it wherever you go. Suddenly, everywhere you look there will be examples of what you want to see. You will see it in your Facebook newsfeed but you will also see it in the world around you. You will literally reprogram your brain to seek out things, people and experiences that support what you’ve said you want to see.

Try it out for yourself. Choose a post you wouldn’t usually be interested in and leave a comment. Refresh your profile and take a look at what is top of your feed. You will probably see more articles or adverts that are related to the post you just commented on. You just told Facebook that this is what you’re interested in right now.

And the response? Your wish is my command …

You see, you are in complete control of what shows up in your newsfeed but you are also in complete control of what you want to see in your life. You decide. You tell your brain what you want to experience.

And the result?

 

Your wish is my command!

Defining Success On Your Own Terms

Defining Success On Your Own Terms

by | Apr 10, 2018 | It's All About You, Law of Attraction, Manifestation

In a world driven by the need to achieve, many of us find ourselves standing outside the ‘normal’ definition of success wondering how to find our place in the world. We look at others who seem to ‘have it all’ and tell ourselves we need to work harder, smarter, longer so we too can find the success we crave.

Perhaps then our lives will have meaning.

The word success will conjure up an immediate mental picture for you and carries with it a raft of expectations based on how we define success.

What does success look like to you?

  • Is it a degree from University?
  • Is it a good job?
  • Is it another rung in a corporate career?
  • Is it owning a house, a car, a plane?
  • Is it earning a certain amount of money?
  • Is it a retirement fund?
  • Is it world travel?
  • Is it fame?
  • Is it a certain number of social media followers?
  • Is it a happy family?
  • Is it holidays abroad?

We are bombarded by messages in the media about who you need to be in order to be successful. We see images of people who have made a fortune out of business or knowledge and we define them as successful. We see sportspeople who are driven to achieve amazing feats and we call them successful. There are types of professions and careers that are considered the perfect road to success and others which are minimised, undervalued and depreciated. And the amount we are paid is directly proportional to the value society places on what we do.

All of these external definitions of success impact our understanding of the word and create an imprint in our brain. That imprint is instantaneously delivered whenever you hear the word success or contemplate your desire to find it. In fact, it is so strongly imprinted on your brain that you will compete with yourself in a need to meet your own preconceived expectations. It will drive your choices, it will drive your behaviour and how closely your results match your imprint, will drive your emotions.

But there is something even deeper and stronger that you are driven by and that’s your own inherent values and needs.

At your deepest core there is a desire to feel certain emotions and you will do anything it takes to feel them.

So if what you want to feel is not delivered by your strive to achieve your imprint of success, then you will not take the actions to create the outcome you’re hoping for. You will certainly do your best with all your will, but will find time and again, you fall short of your own expectations for yourself. It can make you feel like a failure. It can make you feel like you’re just not good enough. And it can make you fall into despair.

But it’s not you who is the problem.

The problem lies with your definition of success and the expectations that accompany it.

And that is in your power to change!

When we change the parameters we use to measure success, we can create a new imprint that matches our values, needs and the emotions we want to feel. By bringing these into alignment, we are creating a recipe for success that we can truly embrace.

George Bernard Shaw is responsible for this famous quote:

“Life isn’t about finding yourself, it’s about creating yourself”

But life is not just about creating yourself. It’s also about creating your world to match who you are.

The act of creation comes from something deep inside of you. It’s the process of bringing something into existence. It’s a connection and reflection of your heart, your soul and your humanity brought to life.

Redefining your measure of success to bring it into alignment with who you truly are is the fastest way to achieve it. It removes the blocks that stop you from taking action, it inspires you to do more, be more, give more.

Why?

Because suddenly instead of there being an internal conflict which saps your energy, there is harmony and a clear direction that every part of you can embrace. This is where your true power lies.

And it’s the place you will find the meaning, fulfilment and growth you’ve been searching for.

For sure the world will still present a version of success that may not match the life you’ve chosen. But if you ask one of the many who have spoken of regrets on their deathbed, they will tell you that chasing the world view of success does not guarantee happiness.

True success is measured by a life lived in alignment with you.

Real success can be measured in happiness, fulfilment, joy, acceptance, connection, self-exploration and self-expression.

This doesn’t mean you live outside of society like some outcast. It means you find your own path within the framework that exists. It means you tap into the resources we all have access to and tailor them to fit your definition of success. It means you harness your power of creation to mould and shape your world by being in alignment with your truest self.

Your strive for success will no longer be a burden, but a joy. Suddenly you will recognise, and be delivered, opportunities you would never have seen if you had pursued the road commonly travelled. There will still be challenges on your journey but as you traverse them, you will understand they are simply signposts to guide you along the way. You will know that it is not the destination that brings fulfilment and happiness but the voyage itself.

As you define success on your own terms there will be outcomes you desire to see but your success will no longer be dependent on a set of expectations being met.

Success will be an outward expression of you in motion.

And therefore as there is no standing still, you are already a success.

It simply exists in you and already is.

“Create a legacy that will outlive you by being a shining example of a life well lived “ – Allanah Hunt

Being Real (Staying Authentic) In A World Of Fake

Being Real (Staying Authentic) In A World Of Fake

by | Apr 4, 2018 | Energy, It's All About You

Being Real (Staying Authentic) In A World Of Fake
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Allanah Hunt

Staying authentic or being real is not easy in a world of reality TV, inflated egos, exaggerated success and fabricated identities.

It can feel like you need to put on a mask to get noticed, to attract attention or to make any kind of impact.

However, the problem with this strategy is that the world is tired of fake smiles and although we have become accustomed to following those stars of reality, in truth many people are looking for someone who is real, is authentic and who they can trust. They have become sceptical of fake news, rigged television shows and ‘celebs’ who are simply famous for being famous.

The world needs you to be your true self. Even if that world is just the few people you interact with on a daily basis. Your children need to you to be the best version of you so they can become the best version of them. Your partner needs you to be you so they can connect with the reasons you’re together. Your work colleagues need you to be you so they can benefit from your knowledge and your wisdom. The company you work for needs you to be you so you can show up and do your best. Your friends need you to be you so you can be honest and true with each other.

And you need you to be you so you can truly experience life in its fullest.

So how can you keep yourself real in a world that demonstrates the opposite?

Take Time Alone

Life has become a superhighway of information and we’re so often running between our real world responsibilities and the demands of a technological world, that there’s no time for anything else. Our ‘down time’ is television watching, Netflix and social media. Scrolling constantly through a news feed to keep up with what’s happening ‘out there’ instead of taking time to discover what’s happening ‘in here’.

Many people exist in some kind of hovering space, suspended apart from themselves as they live vicariously through others. Almost like watching the world flow around them without actually being a part of it. When we focus on what is outside of ourselves, instead of what is within, we become a version of everything we surround ourselves with.

How can you be real if you don’t take the time to connect with who you are?

To know yourself, you must take time to be with yourself. Being by yourself and entertained by technology is not alone time – it’s simply keeping yourself distracted. Alone time is time away from distractions. It’s taking a walk in nature, it’s meditating, it’s going for a long drive in silence, it’s journal writing, it’s a long bath on a cold evening. Alone time is you and yourself, alone and connected.

Put Your Needs First

Your needs are important. In fact, meeting your own needs is absolutely vital as it affects every part of your life. When we take care of others without also taking care of ourselves, we find we are in a constant state of reaction. We’re playing catch-up, constantly on the back foot, desperately trying to cope, to manage and to be all things to all people. This leaves little space for you to act from your true self.

But when you take care of yourself first, you can show up in all your glory. Instead of feeling fragmented and frazzled, you will be calm and capable. Instead of being irritable and overwhelmed, you will be happy and enjoy your interactions with others.

And it’s a reciprocal process. As you take care of yourself and show up being real, the people around you will also be happier, more content and more loving and kind to you.

Follow Your Peace

In between the madness that is modern life, there are moments of peace. A sometimes fleeting moment when you catch a glimpse of yourself. When your mind is quiet, when just for a second, you sit outside chaos and simply are.

Watch out for those moments. Learn to recognise them. It’s whatever makes you sigh in contentment. It’s when you feel most yourself. It’s when you’re being real. What surrounds those seconds of peace. Where are you? What are you doing?

By paying attention to those times when everything feels right in your world, no matter how fleeting they might be, you can begin to deliberately create an atmosphere of peace for yourself.  Follow your peace. Step into your peace. This is where you will find balance, serenity and ultimately where you will find yourself.

Find Your Courage

Life has a way of bringing us to heel. We discover very quickly that there are certain things that are ‘normal’ and certain things that make us ‘weird’. And for sure there are rules of society that we need to obey to maintain order. But it’s the people who are prepared to be go through life being real no matter what the consequences, who truly live. Who change the world.

Courage lives in the heart of each of us but sometimes we lose it.

It becomes smaller each time we put ourselves ‘out there’ and get knocked down, but it never goes away. You can tap into that courage that saw you climb trees, run into the waves, make new friends, learn to drive and fall in love, anytime you choose.

I choose to be true to myself, despite the risk of ridicule from others, rather than try so hard to fit in that I end up incurring my own dislike – Allanah Hunt

Build Your Resilience

There’s courage and then there’s resilience. Resilience is the ability to bounce back when life knocks you down. It’s the ability to harness the strength within you to get up and try again. It’s the choice to never give up on life. Resilience is all about adapting. And more importantly, being willing to adapt. Nothing stands still and the tighter we hold on, the more we hurt.

Start by making small changes and tiny alterations. Put yourself in new situations. Use your courage and inner strength to build resilience for life so when the big things occur, as they ultimately will, you can grow and adapt. So you can embrace change without losing yourself.

Revel In Your Uniqueness

We all have things that make us unique and special but when we’re trying to ‘fit in’ we focus on our similarities to others rather than our differences. We hesitate to bring our sense of humour to a conversation for fear of ridicule. We dress in clothing that makes us indistinguishable from others and in doing so we extinguish our bright light. 

We quiet our inner voice and instead show up in a way that we hope will make us acceptable.

We shy away from what brings us joy preferring to follow the crowd in apathy. We conform to an ideal we believe is ‘right’ instead of embracing our true uniqueness.

Don’t be a clone that belongs. Be brave and allow your specialness to come out of the darkness where it is hiding. Let it break forth and revel in it. Buy that item of clothing that keeps drawing your eye. Let your spontaneity burst forth and see where it goes. Allow yourself to be different from those you currently know and pay attention to the new people you meet. As you allow your uniqueness to shine, others can too.

Share Yourself

Being real comes from deep within you. It’s that part of you that is brave, that part of you that is resilient, that part of you that is at peace. When you’re completely connected to your real self, you will automatically show up in the world as you.

You will lower the masks that have allowed you to feel safe but have ultimately become a pretence that is painful. You will stand a little taller, smile a little wider and laugh a little louder. Your natural beauty, inside and out, will begin to shine more brightly and your eyes will sparkle with authenticity. People will fall in love with you, admire and trust you as you step more fully into your realness.

And those who don’t can simply go on their way. You can let them go in the knowledge that nothing is ever lost.

Even if you miss them for a moment, you’ve missed yourself even more.

And now that you’re here, you will stay true to you no matter what.

Because you are too important to sit on the side-lines of your own life.

Because it’s time to be real

It’s time to be YOU!

Hi, I'm Allanah, Author, Teacher, Manifestation Mentor and Empowerment Coach. My mission is to help you discover the power you have to create your life in a way that brings joy, happiness and freedom. I teach you how to harness the power of The Law of Attraction and bring yourself into alignment with those things you want to experience.

 

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