How To Use Your Facebook Newsfeed To Improve Your Life

How To Use Your Facebook Newsfeed To Improve Your Life

by | Jun 26, 2018 | It's All About You, Law of Attraction, Manifestation

Have you noticed that your Facebook newsfeed is only showing posts from a select few of your friends and contacts?

People you’ve been interacting with for ages, have seemingly disappeared. You might even have forgotten them yourself for a while but when they popped back into your head, what did you do? I know that when this happened to me recently, I went to their profile to check they were still on my friends list. And of course they were.

So what’s going on?

Why can’t you see all your friends posts anymore?

The answer is in the Facebook newsfeed algorithm. If you’re not familiar with an algorithm, here’s what the dictionary defines it as:

“a process or set of rules to be followed in calculations or other problem-solving operations, especially by a computer” 

None the wiser? You’re not alone.

Essentially an algorithm is a program that runs in the background of a digital platform. Google uses algorithms. Every other search engine uses algorithms too.

And of course Facebook newsfeed has its own algorithm that is used to determine what to show in your news feed. As a user, you’d like to think that you’d see everything from all of your friends but Facebook has a series of rules running in the background that are constantly revising which content to show you based on how you use their platform.

Simply put, if you engage (like, share or comment) on a particular person’s posts, Facebook will show you more posts from them. Facebook’s algorithm is adapting constantly to show you content that is relevant to you. The action you take in your Facebook feed is ‘teaching’ the algorithm what you want to see. And unless you start changing your actions, you will keep seeing the same narrow content from your ‘favorite’ friends.

Scary huh?

But what’s even more scary is that this is exactly how your brain is working too.

Your brain is essentially one great big algorithm that will show you exactly what you tell it you want to see. Unfortunately, unless you tell your brain to show you something different from what you’re already seeing, its job is to keep showing you the same (or similar) things over and over again. It essentially a core program that is running on repeat.

It’s a bit like buying a brand new smartphone. The functions that are necessary to run the machine are already installed but to make it do everything you want it to do, you need to install specific apps. In the same way, you are born with the functions that are necessary for life but during the first seven years of your life, apps are being installed. These informational apps are adapting to your environment and programming your brain and body with the messages they receive from your primary caregivers, society, school and your interactions with others. These messages become the foundation for your life. They dictate how you view yourself, how you view the people around you, how you see the world and what you intrinsically believe about how things work.

These messages determine what you see and drive your thoughts and emotions.

So if you’re not happy with how your life looks then some of the core programming that’s running in the background needs to be updated. Unfortunately, this is where those information apps can let you down. They are updatable but it’s not an automatic process. You must choose the updates you want and install them manually.

With me so far?

Okay. Now to the point of this article.

You can use the Facebook newsfeed algorithm to improve your life …

We’ve learned that the Facebook algorithm is learning what you want to see and delivering it to you.

We’ve learned that your brain is doing exactly the same thing.

“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change” ~ Dr. Wayne Dyer

This quote tells us that when we look at things differently, the things we look at change.

But it works in reverse too.

“If you change the things you look at, the things you see will change ” ~ Allanah Hunt

And this is exactly how you can use Facebook’s algorithm to improve your life.

Go out and look for the things you want to see more of. Use the search function to find content that’s inspirational, that will support you on your journey, that will bring more joy, more happiness, more abundance, more gratitude … more of the good stuff into your life.

And then let Facebook know that’s what you want to see. Like, love, share, comment … engage with what you want to see more of. And Facebook will obey. Facebook will deliver you exactly what you ask for. That’s the algorithm’s job.

But here’s the best bit …

As you surround yourself with more of what you want to see, you’re also training your brain to see more of it wherever you go. Suddenly, everywhere you look there will be examples of what you want to see. You will see it in your Facebook newsfeed but you will also see it in the world around you. You will literally reprogram your brain to seek out things, people and experiences that support what you’ve said you want to see.

Try it out for yourself. Choose a post you wouldn’t usually be interested in and leave a comment. Refresh your profile and take a look at what is top of your feed. You will probably see more articles or adverts that are related to the post you just commented on. You just told Facebook that this is what you’re interested in right now.

And the response? Your wish is my command …

You see, you are in complete control of what shows up in your newsfeed but you are also in complete control of what you want to see in your life. You decide. You tell your brain what you want to experience.

And the result?

 

Your wish is my command!

5 Ways Expressing Anger Helps You Grow In Health And Happiness

5 Ways Expressing Anger Helps You Grow In Health And Happiness

by | Jun 11, 2018 | Emotions, Law of Attraction, Manifestation, Personal Development | 0 comments

Anger is something that’s frowned upon in our current society. We’re told we need to ‘manage’ our anger so we push it down where it turns to despair and depression. We hide it away where others can’t see it.

But anger is powerful and it will not be silent. It is loud and the more you push it away, the louder it becomes. You may not hear it with your ears but you will definitely feel it in your body.

The problem is that we’ve numbed our bodies too. The smallest symptom and we reach for the pill bottle. We rush to the doctor as we can’t bear to feel anything other than happy and successful.

We’ve labelled some emotions as bad and others a good. So we chase the good feelings in our attempts to ignore the bad.

But emotion is simply the movement of your own energy within you.

Your feelings are the way your body communicates with you. But when we suppress the emotions we label as bad, we push them down into the body where they do harm. And still your body tries to get your attention. It produces physical symptoms to let you know that something is wrong.

Many people think of anger as something explosive or something uncontrollable. But anger includes a range of less intense feelings too. Irritation, feeling pissed off, indignation – these are all ways that anger can show up.

So how can expressing anger help you grow in health and happiness?

Anger hides deeper emotions that need to be expressed

When we allow our anger to be expressed in healthy ways, we literally ‘let off steam’. Life can be a pressure cooker of stressful and difficult situations but when we let off steam, we allow the pent up emotions to leave our bodies. This gives space for our deeper feelings to be seen.

Anger can mask grief, sadness, loss, insecurity, worthlessness and other often painful emotions.

But these deeper emotions are the key to growth. They allow you to ask questions t0 explore what you believe about yourself and about your place in the world. When we uncover the cause of these feelings, we can begin to change our thinking.

Thoughts are like a constantly broadcasting radio station that becomes the background to our lives. Unless we pay attention to what is playing, we will hear the same music as repeated emotions and results over and over again. By becoming aware of our anger, irritation, indignation and pissed offness, and allowing ourselves to release the energy of them, we create space for what hides beneath.

Unexpressed Anger Turns Inward And Becomes Depression

E-motion is Energy in Motion. And energy needs to go somewhere. It’s not something you can ignore and hope it will go away. It might feel like it leaves as time passes but if you don’t express it, it stays in your body where it alters the chemistry of your internal systems.

It shuts down the production of ‘feel good’ chemicals or hormones that you need for health and happiness.

It interferes with your immune system and your nervous system leaving you tired, exhausted and lethargic. It shows up as chronic pain, headache, stomach ache and a range of other troublesome symptoms. Symptoms that make you exhausted, irritable and start the cycle all over again.

By expressing anger, and allowing deeper emotions to release as well, you effectively halt the chemical changes in your body that cause depression and despair.

Unexpressed Anger Creates Resentment

Resentment is the enemy of relationships. It destroys love and makes us want to withdraw from others. Little irritation upon little irritation builds until you can no longer see the person you’re with. Instead, all you can see are their annoying habits and the things that ‘drive you mad’.

As the resentment gets bigger the person gets smaller until you can longer remember why you’re with them. But behind that irritation lies other emotions. Perhaps you feel ignored, unappreciated, overworked, unsupported or unheard. These feelings show up as anger or indignation and build higher and higher, stronger and stronger until it reaches breaking point.

When you find healthy ways to release these emotions, you can create the space to reconnect, you can create the space to have constructive conversations that can lead to real change.

Unexpressed Anger Kills Happiness

It is impossible to hold two conflicting emotions at the same time. Wen you’re feeling angry or irritated you cannot enjoy the moment you’re in.

The search for happiness and joy often sees us following the latest ‘new thing’, indulging in risky behaviours or looking for a ‘high’. But happiness already exists within us. It’s our natural state.

Happiness is not a feeling that is fleeting but a deep contentment that fills your soul – Allanah Hunt

And one of the fastest ways to connect with that contentment and to allow anger and emotion to be released is to express it. Otherwise it stays in our bodies and shows up as pain and illness. Happiness can be built in layers in the same way that resentment can. I know which one I choose.

Expressing Anger Creates Space For New Experiences

When we’re feeling angry, (or feeling any of the other anger related emotions), we get trapped in a cycle. The more angry we feel, the more we see things to be angry about. It’s like a magnet. Anything that matches our emotions will be drawn to us.

But when we allow anger (and other emotions) to be expressed in healthy ways, we stop the cycle. We reduce the power of the magnet so that it no longer attracts experiences that trigger us. As our focus shifts we ‘suddenly’ see how much we are thankful for. Instead of seeing things that produce anger, we see opportunities and possibilities. We become braver and start to believe in ourselves more. We become quieter and can hear our intuition. Your intuition is your inner guide and is always speaking to you, but anger and other emotions can drown it out.

Following your intuition will lead you to new places, new people and new experiences. Experiences that will allow you to grow in health and happiness.

Expressing Anger In Healthy Ways

So now that I’ve given you 5 reasons why expressing anger is good for you, I want to give you some ways to express in healthy ways.

Yelling, sulking, violence toward others is not healthy and will destroy you and the people around you.

Instead when you feel the anger rising, take a step away. Physically leave the situation if you need to. If you’re in a conversation with someone, take a break. Tell them you need to think about what’s been said. Let them know you don’t want to talk about it right now but make a time when you will discuss it. This will help them feel heard and allow them to deal with their own emotions.

Take a walk, a run or go to the gym as physical exercise shifts the energy in your body. Go somewhere quiet and scream to the sky. Take yourself into nature and breathe in fresh air and breathe out anger. Write out your feelings without censor in a journal or diary. Do something creative.

These are all ways you can allow your anger to be released without it being destructive. Create a plan for yourself ahead of time so that the next time you feel the irritation rising or the anger flooding your body, you can simply put your plan into action.

Don’t let resentment build until you lose people and situations that are precious to you.

Take a step back and express your anger in healthy ways. Allow the energy of your e-motion to be released and then take a look at why you felt this way. Ask yourself some questions.

The answers are the key to growth, health and happiness.

Defining Success On Your Own Terms

Defining Success On Your Own Terms

by | Apr 10, 2018 | It's All About You, Law of Attraction, Manifestation

In a world driven by the need to achieve, many of us find ourselves standing outside the ‘normal’ definition of success wondering how to find our place in the world. We look at others who seem to ‘have it all’ and tell ourselves we need to work harder, smarter, longer so we too can find the success we crave.

Perhaps then our lives will have meaning.

The word success will conjure up an immediate mental picture for you and carries with it a raft of expectations based on how we define success.

What does success look like to you?

  • Is it a degree from University?
  • Is it a good job?
  • Is it another rung in a corporate career?
  • Is it owning a house, a car, a plane?
  • Is it earning a certain amount of money?
  • Is it a retirement fund?
  • Is it world travel?
  • Is it fame?
  • Is it a certain number of social media followers?
  • Is it a happy family?
  • Is it holidays abroad?

We are bombarded by messages in the media about who you need to be in order to be successful. We see images of people who have made a fortune out of business or knowledge and we define them as successful. We see sportspeople who are driven to achieve amazing feats and we call them successful. There are types of professions and careers that are considered the perfect road to success and others which are minimised, undervalued and depreciated. And the amount we are paid is directly proportional to the value society places on what we do.

All of these external definitions of success impact our understanding of the word and create an imprint in our brain. That imprint is instantaneously delivered whenever you hear the word success or contemplate your desire to find it. In fact, it is so strongly imprinted on your brain that you will compete with yourself in a need to meet your own preconceived expectations. It will drive your choices, it will drive your behaviour and how closely your results match your imprint, will drive your emotions.

But there is something even deeper and stronger that you are driven by and that’s your own inherent values and needs.

At your deepest core there is a desire to feel certain emotions and you will do anything it takes to feel them.

So if what you want to feel is not delivered by your strive to achieve your imprint of success, then you will not take the actions to create the outcome you’re hoping for. You will certainly do your best with all your will, but will find time and again, you fall short of your own expectations for yourself. It can make you feel like a failure. It can make you feel like you’re just not good enough. And it can make you fall into despair.

But it’s not you who is the problem.

The problem lies with your definition of success and the expectations that accompany it.

And that is in your power to change!

When we change the parameters we use to measure success, we can create a new imprint that matches our values, needs and the emotions we want to feel. By bringing these into alignment, we are creating a recipe for success that we can truly embrace.

George Bernard Shaw is responsible for this famous quote:

“Life isn’t about finding yourself, it’s about creating yourself”

But life is not just about creating yourself. It’s also about creating your world to match who you are.

The act of creation comes from something deep inside of you. It’s the process of bringing something into existence. It’s a connection and reflection of your heart, your soul and your humanity brought to life.

Redefining your measure of success to bring it into alignment with who you truly are is the fastest way to achieve it. It removes the blocks that stop you from taking action, it inspires you to do more, be more, give more.

Why?

Because suddenly instead of there being an internal conflict which saps your energy, there is harmony and a clear direction that every part of you can embrace. This is where your true power lies.

And it’s the place you will find the meaning, fulfilment and growth you’ve been searching for.

For sure the world will still present a version of success that may not match the life you’ve chosen. But if you ask one of the many who have spoken of regrets on their deathbed, they will tell you that chasing the world view of success does not guarantee happiness.

True success is measured by a life lived in alignment with you.

Real success can be measured in happiness, fulfilment, joy, acceptance, connection, self-exploration and self-expression.

This doesn’t mean you live outside of society like some outcast. It means you find your own path within the framework that exists. It means you tap into the resources we all have access to and tailor them to fit your definition of success. It means you harness your power of creation to mould and shape your world by being in alignment with your truest self.

Your strive for success will no longer be a burden, but a joy. Suddenly you will recognise, and be delivered, opportunities you would never have seen if you had pursued the road commonly travelled. There will still be challenges on your journey but as you traverse them, you will understand they are simply signposts to guide you along the way. You will know that it is not the destination that brings fulfilment and happiness but the voyage itself.

As you define success on your own terms there will be outcomes you desire to see but your success will no longer be dependent on a set of expectations being met.

Success will be an outward expression of you in motion.

And therefore as there is no standing still, you are already a success.

It simply exists in you and already is.

“Create a legacy that will outlive you by being a shining example of a life well lived “ – Allanah Hunt

Being Real (Staying Authentic) In A World Of Fake

Being Real (Staying Authentic) In A World Of Fake

by | Apr 4, 2018 | Energy, It's All About You

Being Real (Staying Authentic) In A World Of Fake
Energy | It's All About You
Allanah Hunt

Staying authentic or being real is not easy in a world of reality TV, inflated egos, exaggerated success and fabricated identities.

It can feel like you need to put on a mask to get noticed, to attract attention or to make any kind of impact.

However, the problem with this strategy is that the world is tired of fake smiles and although we have become accustomed to following those stars of reality, in truth many people are looking for someone who is real, is authentic and who they can trust. They have become sceptical of fake news, rigged television shows and ‘celebs’ who are simply famous for being famous.

The world needs you to be your true self. Even if that world is just the few people you interact with on a daily basis. Your children need to you to be the best version of you so they can become the best version of them. Your partner needs you to be you so they can connect with the reasons you’re together. Your work colleagues need you to be you so they can benefit from your knowledge and your wisdom. The company you work for needs you to be you so you can show up and do your best. Your friends need you to be you so you can be honest and true with each other.

And you need you to be you so you can truly experience life in its fullest.

So how can you keep yourself real in a world that demonstrates the opposite?

Take Time Alone

Life has become a superhighway of information and we’re so often running between our real world responsibilities and the demands of a technological world, that there’s no time for anything else. Our ‘down time’ is television watching, Netflix and social media. Scrolling constantly through a news feed to keep up with what’s happening ‘out there’ instead of taking time to discover what’s happening ‘in here’.

Many people exist in some kind of hovering space, suspended apart from themselves as they live vicariously through others. Almost like watching the world flow around them without actually being a part of it. When we focus on what is outside of ourselves, instead of what is within, we become a version of everything we surround ourselves with.

How can you be real if you don’t take the time to connect with who you are?

To know yourself, you must take time to be with yourself. Being by yourself and entertained by technology is not alone time – it’s simply keeping yourself distracted. Alone time is time away from distractions. It’s taking a walk in nature, it’s meditating, it’s going for a long drive in silence, it’s journal writing, it’s a long bath on a cold evening. Alone time is you and yourself, alone and connected.

Put Your Needs First

Your needs are important. In fact, meeting your own needs is absolutely vital as it affects every part of your life. When we take care of others without also taking care of ourselves, we find we are in a constant state of reaction. We’re playing catch-up, constantly on the back foot, desperately trying to cope, to manage and to be all things to all people. This leaves little space for you to act from your true self.

But when you take care of yourself first, you can show up in all your glory. Instead of feeling fragmented and frazzled, you will be calm and capable. Instead of being irritable and overwhelmed, you will be happy and enjoy your interactions with others.

And it’s a reciprocal process. As you take care of yourself and show up being real, the people around you will also be happier, more content and more loving and kind to you.

Follow Your Peace

In between the madness that is modern life, there are moments of peace. A sometimes fleeting moment when you catch a glimpse of yourself. When your mind is quiet, when just for a second, you sit outside chaos and simply are.

Watch out for those moments. Learn to recognise them. It’s whatever makes you sigh in contentment. It’s when you feel most yourself. It’s when you’re being real. What surrounds those seconds of peace. Where are you? What are you doing?

By paying attention to those times when everything feels right in your world, no matter how fleeting they might be, you can begin to deliberately create an atmosphere of peace for yourself.  Follow your peace. Step into your peace. This is where you will find balance, serenity and ultimately where you will find yourself.

Find Your Courage

Life has a way of bringing us to heel. We discover very quickly that there are certain things that are ‘normal’ and certain things that make us ‘weird’. And for sure there are rules of society that we need to obey to maintain order. But it’s the people who are prepared to be go through life being real no matter what the consequences, who truly live. Who change the world.

Courage lives in the heart of each of us but sometimes we lose it.

It becomes smaller each time we put ourselves ‘out there’ and get knocked down, but it never goes away. You can tap into that courage that saw you climb trees, run into the waves, make new friends, learn to drive and fall in love, anytime you choose.

I choose to be true to myself, despite the risk of ridicule from others, rather than try so hard to fit in that I end up incurring my own dislike – Allanah Hunt

Build Your Resilience

There’s courage and then there’s resilience. Resilience is the ability to bounce back when life knocks you down. It’s the ability to harness the strength within you to get up and try again. It’s the choice to never give up on life. Resilience is all about adapting. And more importantly, being willing to adapt. Nothing stands still and the tighter we hold on, the more we hurt.

Start by making small changes and tiny alterations. Put yourself in new situations. Use your courage and inner strength to build resilience for life so when the big things occur, as they ultimately will, you can grow and adapt. So you can embrace change without losing yourself.

Revel In Your Uniqueness

We all have things that make us unique and special but when we’re trying to ‘fit in’ we focus on our similarities to others rather than our differences. We hesitate to bring our sense of humour to a conversation for fear of ridicule. We dress in clothing that makes us indistinguishable from others and in doing so we extinguish our bright light. 

We quiet our inner voice and instead show up in a way that we hope will make us acceptable.

We shy away from what brings us joy preferring to follow the crowd in apathy. We conform to an ideal we believe is ‘right’ instead of embracing our true uniqueness.

Don’t be a clone that belongs. Be brave and allow your specialness to come out of the darkness where it is hiding. Let it break forth and revel in it. Buy that item of clothing that keeps drawing your eye. Let your spontaneity burst forth and see where it goes. Allow yourself to be different from those you currently know and pay attention to the new people you meet. As you allow your uniqueness to shine, others can too.

Share Yourself

Being real comes from deep within you. It’s that part of you that is brave, that part of you that is resilient, that part of you that is at peace. When you’re completely connected to your real self, you will automatically show up in the world as you.

You will lower the masks that have allowed you to feel safe but have ultimately become a pretence that is painful. You will stand a little taller, smile a little wider and laugh a little louder. Your natural beauty, inside and out, will begin to shine more brightly and your eyes will sparkle with authenticity. People will fall in love with you, admire and trust you as you step more fully into your realness.

And those who don’t can simply go on their way. You can let them go in the knowledge that nothing is ever lost.

Even if you miss them for a moment, you’ve missed yourself even more.

And now that you’re here, you will stay true to you no matter what.

Because you are too important to sit on the side-lines of your own life.

Because it’s time to be real

It’s time to be YOU!

Hi, I'm Allanah, Author, Teacher, Manifestation Mentor and Empowerment Coach. My mission is to help you discover the power you have to create your life in a way that brings joy, happiness and freedom. I teach you how to harness the power of The Law of Attraction and bring yourself into alignment with those things you want to experience.

 

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5 Reasons That Stop You Achieving Your Goals (and what they truly mean)

5 Reasons That Stop You Achieving Your Goals (and what they truly mean)

by | Apr 2, 2018 | Energy, It's All About You, Manifestation

How many times have you given yourself a hard time for not being where you want to be? Whether it’s business goals, a New Year’s resolution, a new skill or just one of those many things you’ve started but never completed, we all have times when despite our desire for things to be ‘different’ we just can’t seem to take the action that will get us there.

It’s frustrating, debilitating and downright detrimental to your self-esteem and self-belief.  You know you can do it, you can visualize it being your reality but … for one reason or another, it’s just not happening for you.

So let’s take a look at five of those reasons and see if we can figure out what’s truly going on. Take note of the reasons that feel familiar or true to you but do yourself a favour and read to the end as that’s where I’ll bring it all together and give you some tools to move yourself toward your goals.

I Have Too Much Else To Do …

Busyness has become an obsession in our fast moving world. There’s work, the kids, the house, friends, obligations, activities, technology, other people’s expectations … sometimes it feels like we’re on a merry-go-round that we can’t get off.

But if you break it down, how much time do you spend doing each of the ‘must do’s’ on your list? How many hours a day, a week, a month do these things consume? If you were to keep a time-sheet of your busyness for an entire month, you might be surprised at how much free time you actually have access to.

Even if you are an exceptionally busy person, there are ways to prioritise your activities to make space for the things that are important.

It’s not enough to be busy, so are the ants. The question is, what are we busy about? – Henry David Thoreau

I’ll Do It When …

This is one I’ve used many times and to be honest, it still comes up for me from time to time. NOW just doesn’t feel like the right time. In reality, I’m simply putting off something that I could start today.

This could sound like:

  • I’ll start my new eating program on Monday – it just doesn’t make sense to start today
  • I’m working on other things right now but once I’ve finished those, I’ll get right on it.
  • I’ve got a super jammed schedule this week but next week looks better – I’ll start then
  • It’s taken this long to start, a bit longer won’t make any difference

Don’t wait until the perfect time to begins something important. Sometimes later becomes never – Allanah Hunt

It’s Really Not That Important …

When we’re struggling to take action towards goals we know are vital if we are to live the life we truly want, it’s easy to convince ourselves that it doesn’t really matter.

This might sound like:

  • Yeah, it’d be nice to finish that project but it’s not as if I’m going to end world hunger
  • I guess if it was important to me, I would have done it by now
  • It’s not really going to make that much difference to my life
  • My life is okay as it is – I don’t need that thing to be happy

All of these sound valid and reasonable, and all of them will stop you in your tracks.

I Need More Information Before I Can Start …

I love learning and have spent many years gathering information. My brain is full of knowledge but all the knowledge in the world, will not help me take action towards my goals. Information is stored in a part of the brain that is very different from the action taking section.

I know so many entrepreneurs who get stuck in this place. The search for knowledge is admirable and often necessary, but it’s easy to stay in the learning loop and never use it to catapult you to what you want.

This may sound like:

  • Once I know how to do this … I’ll be flying
  • I don’t understand how that technology works
  • I need to create a system for that
  • I’m not sure what the best plan is for me

Don’t let your learning lead to knowledge. Let your learning lead to action – Jim Rohn

Something Came Up …

There are times of course when life temporarily gets in the way of our goals and we must turn our attention to something else. However, it is easy to look at all the other things that ‘come up’ and forget to turn out focus back to what we desire for ourselves and get back on track.

There will always be distractions or something in your periphery vision, sometimes valid but most simply designed to take your focus away from the changes you want to make.

And then there’s ‘shiny object syndrome’ (SOS) which I work consciously to ignore but something that still plagues me from time to time.

SOS may sound like this:

  • That was a good idea but this one is better
  • What if I was to do this instead?
  • I’m not sure if I like that … I think I’ll start again

I remind myself that the path to achieving my goals is dedicated, persistent and aligned action. Progress is one foot in front of the other in the same direction whilst leaving space for inspiration to guide you.

All of the reasons above are real and at times they are appropriate. But sometimes these are stories we tell ourselves to ‘let ourselves off the hook’.

There’s a couple of things going on that when any of these or other reasons come up.

Firstly, your brain is designed to keep you safe and will send out an automatic ‘warning’ message when you start to do something new. The message is heard as a doubt and often followed by a seemingly rational reason not to take action. This is your brain’s job but you get to make the ultimate choice. Unfortunately, many of us get stuck here and second guess our desires. Doubt can feel like your intuition, but it’s often just your brain alerting you to the fact you’re taking an action you’ve never taken before.

You can use a simple technique when you hear that little warning voice. Thank your brain for taking such good care of you and ask it to support you in what you want to do. You may need to do this several times, you may need to do it every time you sit down to focus on what you want for a while, but if you keep taking action, your brain will catch up as it understands and adapts.

And secondly, sometimes what you want is not aligned with your values. We are all driven by the desire to meet some fundamental needs. The fastest and most efficient way to push through any internal resistance and find your true motivation to take action, is to tie what you want to your highest values.

According to Tony Robbins, the key six human needs we are all driven by are:

  • The need to feel loved and connected to others
  • The need to feel important or belong
  • The need to know what to expect
  • The need for the excitement of something new
  • The need to evolve and grow
  • The need to give to others or make a difference

When you are able to identify the top one or two needs you are driven to meet in your own life, and tie your desired outcome to what drives you, you will no longer hear the reasons that stop you from taking action towards your goals. You will be determined, focused and do whatever it takes to create what you desire for yourself.

 

*Tony Robbins has a simple 10 question test you can take online to help you discover the human need that is driving your decisions. You will need to give your email address to get the results but you can unsubscribe at any time. Discovering this one secret could open the doors to everything you’ve ever wanted but never been able to create

Take the test here

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